Although often considered a ‘taboo’ subject, issues with sexual performance are far more common than most people think. Even in a marriage sex can be a topic of little discussion. I’m about to be real with ya’ll for a minute. Although, I KNOW that God intended sex to be an act of worship, it doesn’t always feel that way. There have been many times when I have dismissed the topic all together simply because of little desire or quite frankly, exhaustion. Having a baby who constantly sucks the life out of you can start to wear on your desire to be intimate. Do I REALLY want to chance having another baby, right now?
Needless to say, neglecting that part of worship in a marriage is not healthy. There IS a reason why God refers to it as an act of worship 😉 So, knowing that I needed to fix this part of my relationship, I naturally asked my doctor for tips, I was given a list of several different prescription drugs that I could look into… simply because, my doctor already knows, you can’t give me a script before I’ve done my research!
Don’t get me wrong, I do believe that there are times when using medication is a viable option, it’s just that, for me, this was not one of those times! Especially after reading all the side-effects that the list of drugs had. Woozers! The trouble arises when prescription medication fails to deliver desired results, which an overwhelming amount of people experience – between 10 to 52% of men and 25% to 63% of women. As sexual health has always been a personal matter and one which can easily become entangled with issues of self-worth and self-image, the failure of medical drugs to deliver expected results can contribute to low levels of self-esteem and emotional distress.
The fact of the matter is that just as every relationship is different, every BODY is different too, and will respond in largely contrasting ways to medication. Functional medicine, however, focuses on helping the individual to not only figure out what is best for their unique needs and symptoms but also how to PREVENT it from occurring again and lower the risks of the condition worsening, using natural treatment options.
Issues surrounding sexual performance can include (but are not limited to):
- Erectile dysfunction in men
- Lowered libido
- Vaginal dryness
- Sexual performance anxiety
All of these conditions have in the past been treated with pharmaceutical drugs, a large amount of which can have negative side-effects when used over a long period of time. With the help of natural remedies, many people have seen their symptoms decrease significantly and sometimes even completely subside.
What Are Some Functional Medicine Techniques?
By looking at the individual as a whole as a means of treating their sexual performance issues, functional health professionals can identify the root cause of the issue instead of simply making it disappear temporarily. The only way to truly heal from an issue like this is to dig deep and find the root cause – whether it be physical, mental, environmental, emotional, or spiritual. These are the elements which functional health focuses on in order to get to the true cause of the issues like these that often manifest themselves physically.
In terms of sexual health, it is of utmost importance to recognize and acknowledge your own struggles with performance. Not being open to these issues is often the primary cause of them worsening and festering over time. Learning as much as you can about the issue – be it a hormonal imbalance due to anxiety, a nutritional issue, or something else entirely – is the best and only way to make effective changes.
So, take some time to really dig deep! Even if it feels uncomfortable to talk about, DO IT! God created sex for it to be pleasurable, if you don’t believe me, just open up your bible to the book of Song of Solomon! Talk about Pleasuretown.
There are foods you can include in your diet that boost sexual health and increase libido – while we can’t necessarily promise they will increase your performance, improving your nutrition WILL help to ensure that your sexual health is improved significantly!
Foods to boost sexual health include:
- Dark chocolate
- Green tea
- Pumpkin seeds
- Fatty Fish
- Red wine
What combinations of these will you try?
Many couples love bringing essential oils into their relationship because of the aphrodisiac properties inherent in these wonderfully natural products.
Elevate your relationship with this amazing blend:
Step 1: Start by using a roller bottle and add 4 ounces of Fractionated Coconut Oil.
Step 2: Add the following dōTERRA® essential oils:
-2 drops of Black Pepper
-2 drops of Ginger
-3 drops of Rosemary
-3 drops of Wild Orange
-4 drops of Sandalwood
-4 drops of Ylang Ylang
-4 drops of Bergamot
You can apply to the back of your neck, behind your ears, or even on your wrists – it smells amazing by the way!
Let me know what you think after trying this one! I have many other recipes if you’re open to try some.
Like I mentioned, everyBODY is different, so have a little fun with your spouse and try different foods, oils, hire a babysitter( you were married before you became a parent, ALWAYS remember that!), and have conversations.
NEED a DATE NIGHT? No sitter?
Here are some reasources that you can use that aren’t going to break the bank.
First United Methodist Church has a Parent’s Night Out program that is decently priced. The staff is great and always very helpful.
The Summit Church also offers Parent’s Day/Night out several times throughout the year.
Tippi Toes also offers a PNO on Fridays.
There are some gyms that are also offering Parent’s Night Out options for members! Ask your gym to see if they are in the IN crowd!
Check with different church organizations in your community as well.
Or get IN COMMUNITY! Build relationships, get to know people, there are so many groups that you can join. Find others who would like to trade off babysitting. You can do the “Ticket System” and start your very own Co-op!
We are motivated to educate as many people as possible which is why we host many events at our office. From in-person educational experiences to virtual webinars and even parties to celebrate our patients, we encourage everyone to get involved with all of our offerings. Take a look at all of our exciting events here: garrettnrach.synduit.com